I used to be really proud to call myself a girl gamer. It wasn’t about the individuality or this badge of honor type thing, it was just that is what I did. I was a girl who gamed. Yet, when I go to so many places I see more and more girl gamers not quite live up to what I see myself as.
I want to be a positive force for all gamers. I want to show different sides, solutions, and characters. I want to do well and feel good about myself, without my actions making another feel bad. I don’t want to guilt trip people into anything. I want there to be a respectable and varied view of women in gaming. I want it to be inclusive and celebratory, not dismissive.
Yet, what I get when I read blog posts, take part in all female activities, or look at message board is this massive swing from one side to the other. I don’t see people who want games to be fun for everyone, but instead this very angry set-up of people who can’t take a step back and evaluate their position. I get the feeling of people who have issues with you if you don’t have the same view as them.
I get men are bad, boobs are evil, and so on.
No. That isn’t what I want to see the gaming community develop. What I want to see is an equal spot for all people who show any interest in games. I want to see women treated respectfully, but still fit their character. I want to see the human body that is depicted on that card or in those pixels to be equally enjoyed by all sexes and some of the characters to be incredibly relatable while others maybe not so much.
No, I’m not a feminist. I probably fall into an egalitarian category. However, I am a female gamer who is incredibly proud of who I am and the fellow gamers I play with.
My view is that perhaps if we start trending towards a greater unified community, these other things will follow. If we stop making this a gender war and start making this a cohesive effort towards a greater community we might start getting somewhere. If we start looking past gender, sexuality, race, religion, whatever…imagine how many more people there would be to play with.
Then again, we are gamers. Cohesive isn’t often our thing. How ever, determination is, and I’m pretty damned determined.